As the pup
community continues to grow and define both itself and its place within the
broader leather and fetish community, there is a lot of discussion about what
being a pup and pup play are all about. We often explore through discussions
and interactions the various aspects and motivations we bring to it. Yes, we
sometimes get into disagreements about it, but in the end we come back to a
general consensus that there is no single right way or approach.
But one thing we almost always agree on is something that pup play absolutely isn’t about: that pup play and being a pup is not about having free reign to be disrespectful or disruptive. Being a pup does not excuse us from common or community norms for accepted public behavior. One of the most common complaints I encounter in my travels from leather and kinky folk is about people who will impose on someone’s personal space and then say that they’re a pup and they’re allowed to do it.
There is nothing that justifies disrespectful behavior, and putting ones nose in a stranger’s crotch without permission is just that: disrespectful. Being a pup does not allow for that behavior!
Yes, I’ve heard the counter that bio-dogs do it. For one thing, that kind of behavior with bio dogs is very much frowned upon. If a bio dog goes around biting or putting its face where it’s not invited or barking disruptively, it often gets smacked or dealt with angrily. It may even go so far as to having someone called or action taken to remove the dog entirely. If there’s a handler immediately at hand, they’re held responsible for the dog’s behavior.
For human pups and their handlers, it’s no different.
Or to put it within the context of how we play together as kinksters and leatherfolk. If someone came up to a complete stranger with a flogger and just started hitting them with it, there’s no way in this world or any other we would call that acceptable. No one would ever accept that it’s justified simply because that’s the play they get into. In fact, that kind of behavior isn’t merely disrespectful, it’s downright illegal and dangerous.
For pups and pup play, it’s no different.
Yes, part of pup play is about letting go our conscious concerns and inhibitions and just being in the moment. But, even so, we are still humans. The behavioral expectations placed upon as members of a community still remain. Just as we encourage thorough preparation for any kind of play scene to keep it safe and respectful, it’s important to adopt that same mindset when approaching a pup play.
But one thing we almost always agree on is something that pup play absolutely isn’t about: that pup play and being a pup is not about having free reign to be disrespectful or disruptive. Being a pup does not excuse us from common or community norms for accepted public behavior. One of the most common complaints I encounter in my travels from leather and kinky folk is about people who will impose on someone’s personal space and then say that they’re a pup and they’re allowed to do it.
There is nothing that justifies disrespectful behavior, and putting ones nose in a stranger’s crotch without permission is just that: disrespectful. Being a pup does not allow for that behavior!
Yes, I’ve heard the counter that bio-dogs do it. For one thing, that kind of behavior with bio dogs is very much frowned upon. If a bio dog goes around biting or putting its face where it’s not invited or barking disruptively, it often gets smacked or dealt with angrily. It may even go so far as to having someone called or action taken to remove the dog entirely. If there’s a handler immediately at hand, they’re held responsible for the dog’s behavior.
For human pups and their handlers, it’s no different.
Or to put it within the context of how we play together as kinksters and leatherfolk. If someone came up to a complete stranger with a flogger and just started hitting them with it, there’s no way in this world or any other we would call that acceptable. No one would ever accept that it’s justified simply because that’s the play they get into. In fact, that kind of behavior isn’t merely disrespectful, it’s downright illegal and dangerous.
For pups and pup play, it’s no different.
Yes, part of pup play is about letting go our conscious concerns and inhibitions and just being in the moment. But, even so, we are still humans. The behavioral expectations placed upon as members of a community still remain. Just as we encourage thorough preparation for any kind of play scene to keep it safe and respectful, it’s important to adopt that same mindset when approaching a pup play.
Even as the
pup community continues to build and define itself, none of us who are
dedicated to it agree with these excuses that being a pup is some kind of “get
out of responsibility free” card. We frown on and reject these behaviors. Even
as we bring together a more cohesive and embracing puppy community, nowhere
within it – or the broader leather and fetish world of which we are a part –
are we trying to rewrite standards of acceptable social behavior. Nor are we, as
a community, encouraging these continued examples of inappropriate behavior.
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