There is No Box...

I'm a pretty open-minded person. I think it safe to say that anyone who knows me can attest to that. I'm not given to quick or rash judgments; I very readily acknowledge that I don't know everything, that I never will, and that I will ALWAYS have something to learn. And not only that, but I freely realize that I can learn (and HAVE learned) from those younger or with less time in the community than me just as much as from those older or with longer experience.

And it's also pretty safe to say I'm an easy-going person. It takes an awful lot to get under my skin, much less get me riled up.

But one of the things that constantly yanks my tail is the misinformed generalization of pups, not just as subs, but as wild-minded players in need of discipline and control. To me, it's both disrespectful and closed-minded.  Not all pups are subs! Let me re-state that, in case it didn't sink in the first time: Not All Pups Are Submissives! We do not all need to be locked up in chastity (although it can be fun for those who do!). That's something between each individual pup and his/her trainer or partner. It's not for anyone else to determine that it's needed. It's certainly not for someone else to assume it's required just because someone is a pup (or even a boy or slave).

And we are not a bunch of boys acting wild an in need of discipline. Are there individuals that fit that description? Yes. But is it grossly unfair to judge ALL of us by that. Many of us are well-respected (and respectful) members of the community. A good number of us are within stable relationships, D/s or otherwise. When flash judgments are made, our value as individuals within the community is eclipsed by misconceptions born of narrow-mindedness.

To know the pup community is to know that we are a very diverse and multi-faceted community, one that embraces a wide array of styles, personalities, and expressions. Take the time to see us as we are. If you want to enjoy being inside kennel with us, you have to first to think outside the box!